Monday, December 31, 2007

Farewell letter from Yuni

Today, another meeting awaited at 10 am .I asked my hubby to bring along our two girls to his school while I brought Daniel ( my 4 month) to join my meeting. I was lucky, a number of unpaid babysitters are willing to help. The first hour of the meeting, he sleeps very soundly and the next hour was history. I had to leave the meeting room to feed him and as I returned the meeting was over.Whatever it is I sent back Yuni no 2 for good. So no regrets. Starting tomorrow, Daniel and Arianna will be in kindergarten and nursery.

Yesterday my hubby found a letter written by Yuni enclosed with a RM50 note. The letter says here....

Salam Perpisahan
Salam penghormatan buat Ibu dan keluarga,
Selamat tinggal buat ibu, bapak serta semua keluarga yang telah menjaga dan banyak memberikan semangat untuk Yuni meneruskan kehidupan.
2 tahun bukanlah waktu yang singkat untuk dilalui,terlalu banyak kisah suka mahupun duka yang telah ditempuhi bila dikenang terlalu susah untuk mengingati.

Ibu,
Mula Yuni datang kerumah ibu ini tidak banyak benda yang Yuni ketahui, terlalu mentah bagi Yuni memahami erti kehidupan ini. Oleh kerana itu Yuni banyak menanggung susah akibat dari kebodohan Yuni sendiri. Yuni terlalu mengikut rasa sehingga segala teguran dan perkataan yang ibu ucapkan menusuk ke hati dan membuat Yuni patah semangat. Kini semuanya telah pun berlalu tiada guna di kenang mahupun diungkit kembali. Segala perasaan kecil hati dan tersinggung telah pun hilang dari hati ini.

Ibu,
Yuni banyak membuat hati ibu kecewa, baik dari sikap mahupun hasil kerja Yuni yang tidak memuaskan. Yuni tahu ibu selalu menahan hati dan kemarahan agar tidak terlalu mengasari. Yuni beruntung kerana ibu cepat untuk memaafkan walaupun Yuni selalu mengulangi kesalahan yang sama.

Ibu,
Diantara kita sering membutuhkan ( memerlukan). Namun apa yang ibu butuhkan tidak terpenuhi sepenuhnya oleh Yuni walaupun Yuni telah berusaha untuk memperbaiki diri. Dari itu Yuni meminta ampun dan maafkanlah segala salah dosa serta silap dan kelemahan Yuni, baik yang Yuni sengajakan mahupun yang tidak di sengaja. Yuni sangat berharap agar hati ibu lembut untuk sudi melupakan dan mengampunkan dosa salah Yuni.

Ibu,
Yuni juga banyak merosakkan harta benda ibu. Ikhlaskanlah dan halalkanlah segalanya termasuk Tape radio ibu yang talah lama Yuni gunakan sehingga ianya rosak. Yuni juga menghilangkan kaset Tape hindustan ibu yang Yuni selalu gunakan dulu.Yuni sudah cari merata namun tetap tak jumpa walaupun hilangnya di rumah ibu dan mungkin bila-bila masa ibu akan terjumpa kembali namun Yuni merasa sangat berhutang dan bertanggungjawab untuk menggantinya.

Ibu...
Yuni harap wang ini dapat ibu gunakan untuk menggantinya agar tidak ada beban hutang yang akan Yuni tanggung dihari akhirat nanti.
Mudah-mudahan hidup ibu sekeluarga tetap bersatu, aman bahagia, tidak ada gangguan baik dari dalam hati ibu mahupun gangguan yang datangnya dari luar diri ibu dan keluarga.Amin.
Dan Yuni berharap perhubungan kita ini tidak akan berakhir sampai disini...kiranya ia tetap terjalin baik sampai akhir hayat kita....Amin

Wasallam


I plan to return back her money together with some souvenirs for her family EVENTHOUGH I just found out that she had also broke my bookshelf's glass and the window latch.Nasib badan la... what to do.



Sunday, December 30, 2007

Yuni dah balik kampung

Today, Yuni my maid just ended her 2 years contract and flew back to Medan.What to say.....? Relief or sad ? Yesterday, after coming back from my school meeting which ended at 1 pm, I forced her to help me with the cleaning of her room which will be transfered into sarah and Arianna's room. Guess what....? Only then I found out she never wash her room's curtain since the last two years .
Relief or sad..........? She left me with broken vacuum, broken blender and the washing machine is now producing funny kind of noises. My TEFAL nonstick pan was also full of scrubs. I even had to wash her toilet.
Sri Wahyuni was my second maid. The first one had the same name too. The first Yuni was even worst.
I started having a maid when I gave birth to my second baby.That was in 2004. I used to send my kids to my mom in law who lives nearby but after seeing how busy she was with the house chores, I then decided to take a helper under my mother in law's supervision. In other word, this maid will do the cleaning at my home and then sent to my mother in law's house together with the kids. I finally got a 22 year old Indonesian maid from Medan. On the first day she came she dropped and broke my blender . The second day, she pocked my daughter's eyes with a feather duster. The third day and the rest, she woke up at 8-9 am everyday. At that time I was teaching in the afternoon. She started vacuuming the house at 9.30 am.Mopping was only done when I asked her. Aduihhhhhh I got a headache with this girl. At the beginning I just hold back my anger until one of my friends taught me to teach her a lesson. I wasn't good at scolding people before....tak sampai hati but after getting pushed by a friend one day, I took the courage to scold her. My friend even taught me to kick the door if she refuse to open and get up early. The first try, I called to wake her up but she refused to open the door.This girl was really stubborn that i finally got blew up with her. I scolded her like anything. She then cried and promised to change.
I was then asked to teach in the morning and whether she like it or not she needs to get up early.
This time she always got me late to work. In fact I had a few times waiting for her in the car while she does her cleaning. My mother in law then complained that every time she reaches her house, she will put the baby in the swing and begin sleeping on the sofa. I then caught her sleeping on the sofa when I came back from school one day. I thought she was sick but was told that she was fine. Siap berselimut lagi. Rupanya budak ni kuat tidur.I don't know what to say.
She then came up with a story that she was pregnant before and had an abortion.I was really shocked. I dont have to force her anything, she told me everything ...about her living together with a man for a year, worked in Malaysia for a year and was sent back by her employer.She then told me that she wanted to work for a year as now her new boyfriend wanted to marry her.I thought 'macam-macam budak ni'. I told my mother in law about this girl but she doesn't believe much of what I said until..... I had a three week course in Terengganu and I asked my hubby to bring the kids and Yuni to stay at his mom's house. Within that period of time, my mother in law had all with her.She even scolded my mother in law for telling the neighbours that she was my maid. I really had enough with this girl. To cut short the story, it seems that her boyfriend had cheated her, so she wanted to continue working with me. I told her only one thing," bangun awal". She begged through my mother in law but I had made up my mind. Everybody voted for her to be sent back but whether they voted the otherwise, my decision was final.She was sent back to Medan but had made a plan to be my own mother's adopted daughter. Luckily my mom told me. She called my mom and asked her when was she coming to take her back. My mom also one thing.....she only knew this girl for a few days and already plan to take her as her helper cum anak angkat. I brought Yuni back to Penang once and told her not to 'embarass' me and my mom gamaknya terpikat dengan 'kerajinan' this girl. I have 3 single brothers in the house . Luckily my mom told me, she might have felt guilty over betraying her own daughter. I told my mom if she wants to be this girl's kuli then it's good for her to 'take' this girl.I knew my mom and dad very well. They pity poor people. With this girl coming up with lots of sad stories ,sure enough they will buy every thing she said.
When we were kids, I remembered having a maid at home. We were warned by our parents to treat the maid like family. Jangan mimpilah the maid will serve us. Everything must be prepared on our own. We even had breakfast together with her.
I was angry because my mother trusted Indonesian maid more than her own daughter. Even though I spend less years in the family , I am still her daughter ( I stayed with my family until I was 12 and after that i started boarding school life, college life, university life and single life on my own and now married life. My parents knew very little about me except that I am rebelious, outspoken and kuat merajuk). Tak kisahlah.....after all where did that 'perangai' come from. Back to Yuni no 1 case, I threatened my mom that should she brought back this girl, she will never see me again.
Will tell more about Yuni no 2 in my next post


Saturday, December 29, 2007

A journey to The Palace of The golden Horses

Dah lama benar rasanya tak menulis. Banyak sebenarnya yang hendak dicerita but my server suddenly went down.Entah apa masalahnya hanya beberapa web tertentu saja yang boleh dibuka. Dalam pada sedang memikir what's the problem, hari ini dapat berita baik from hubby semua dah okay.Yahoo.....I can post again.
Well, today thought of posting about my previous visit to The Palace Of The Golden Horses. I got a call from NUTP ( Teacher's Union), asking whether I can make my way to 'The Palace' on December 11th as there will be a MELTA Colloquium where I have to participate in giving opinion on the teaching of Mathematics and Science in English. I agreed to go as the President of MELTA was actually my former lecturer in UPM and anything to do with MELTA is normally very costly.
Since the meeting will be at 9 am and I need to register myself by 8.30, I planned to leave from home at 7.30 but my hubby suggested I leave at 7 am as I wasn't sure where the place is. I have seen the signboard somewhere along the highway but wasn't sure the exact place.Anyway I left at 8 am. Perempuan lah katakan.....nak bersiap, nak menyusu anak, nak itu nak ini.So I sped like mad and was very lucky, there was no traffic..The road was mine.By 8.15 from Setiawangsa I was already there. I turned into where the sign was and just go along the road. There was a roundabout and after that I don't know where I was heading. That's it...no more signboards. I just followed my drivers instinct , pusing sana pusing sini.Nasib baik naik kereta and not jalan kaki. Finally I take a turn and passed the toll, so asked the toll girl "Dik mana Palace Of the Golden Horses". " Tuuuu", she pointed at where I need to make my head turned. It was just behind me. I just past this place. The question now how do I get there when it was behind me and I was just passing the toll. The girl asked me to keep to the left and turn left.I followed but there was no left turning into the hotel. I made up my mind to make a U turning and finally I was there by 8.45 . I have passed the place but the signboard was too small. There was a horse painting there but that cannot replace a signboard.
Anyhow the hectic journey turned into sweet memories. Met a few new friends there. The colloquium was attended by teachers,lecturers,KPM,JPN, PIBGN , professional individuals and Mukhriz Mahathir as speaker.
Right at the end of Mukhriz speech, I went and see him to pass a short note to Tun Dr M. Just to show my appreciation to Tun. Sementara Tun masih adalah, kita perlu tunjukkan perhargaan kita, bila orang dah tak ada..dah tak ada guna lagi.I have a lot to talk about Tun but may be some other time. Mukriz is as humble as his father.He said his father was just here so he can drop by and pass him my note.My new friend Jumi was already waiting for me so I can't talk much but Jumi regretted very much that she didn't do the same thing I did. Never mind Jumi, we'll find our time and visit Tun someday. Thank you Tun for everything including the idea of that beautiful Palace Of The Golden Horses.

Sunday, December 9, 2007

Samun sini, samun sana

Semalam terbaca dalam paper tentang forum 'Kenapa kita semakin kejam' anjuran CONSERVE di UIA . Diberitahu bahawa Jazimin, ayah kepada Nurin dan keluarganya akan berada sama di sana. Memang ingat-ingat tu nak pergi nak 'participate in giving opinions'. Dah tanya hubby' dan dia pun dah bagi green light . Kalau dia nak ikut tu memanglah tak boleh sebab baby Daniel tak ada orang nak jaga. kalau nak di harapkan Yuni, maid kat rumah tu memanglah tak tenang dibuatnya. Fikir punya fikir, akhirnya tak jadi pergi sebab waktu malam sekarang ni bukanlah waktu yang selamat untuk berada di jalan. Bercakap pasal keselamatan di jalanraya ni, baik waktu siang mahu pun malam, macam- macam boleh jadi.

Teringat pulak kisah seorang kawan yang kena samun di siang hari sebulan yang lepas. Kisahnya bermula macam ni .Member ni tengah bawa kereta jam 11 pagi, on the way to school area Ampang. Tiba-tiba ada dua mat motor tunjuk-tunjuk kat belakang kereta, diaorang beritahu member ni ekzos kereta dia terbakar. Member pun panik, terus stop kat petrol station. Mat motor dua orang ni datang dekat dan cakap kata dia kena tukar minyak hitam. Yang seorang tu siap offer minyak hitam kat rumah kakak dia lagi, dia suruh member ni ikut. My friend ni pulak called her husband, lepas tu suruh mamat ni cakap dengan husband dia menggunakan telefon dia sementara dia pergi beli minyak hitam. Elok keluar aje dari kedai, tengok-tengok handphone dan mat motor dah lesap. My respond to her, " tak pelah cuma handphone je." Tak dapat di bayangkan apa akan berlaku kalau member ni ikut dua mamat ni ke rumah 'kakak' dia. Kalau nak di kata my friend ni bodoh pun tak boleh jugak sebab bila kita seorang yang jujur, kita selalu bayangkan orang lain juga sejujur kita , padahal manusia yang macam ni dah berlambak-lambak, cuma kita saja yang belum terserempak ( minta simpang malaikat 44).

Whatever it is.....sama-samalah kita beringat. Kalau setakat handphone dan harta benda yang lain, lepaskanlah saja. Tak berbaloi kalau kerana semua ni nyawa jadi mangsa. Yang tak boleh di elak hanyalah bilamana manusia seperti ini sememangnya dahagakan darah manusia lebih bertuhankan syaitan dari menjadi hamba Allah.

Semoga perjalanan kita berada di dalam peliharaan Yang Maha Esa. Amin.




Friday, December 7, 2007

Hindraf,Hindraf, Hindraf

Hindraf, Hindraf and Hindraf. I called my best buddy Shan and asked what was all this about. Shan told me everything. I then told Shan " our government also one thing, this people just want to gather and get the memorandum passed on, just let them lah". Shan seems to disagreed, "No T, this is more than that." Shan had her own opinion.
Shanta is not the only Indian best friend I have. Before she, Julie was my best buddy.We were like cream biscuit, glued together.In fact I was even closer to her parents, Amma and Anyah. They were like my own parents. When they moved to a flat house in Wangsa Maju, I also moved with them. At that time, they were staying on the first floor and me with other bachelors friends on the top floor. So almost everyday, my face will be seen in her house. In fact I also had my lunch and dinner there. I have nothing to worry as amma and anyah only cook halal food. I would never forget them, they have never treated me like strangers. In fact when I stayed with them during the fasting month, amma will get up early in the morning to prepare for my "sahur".
When anyah got sick in Teluk Intan, Julie and me rushed to Teluk Intan, so her whole relatives then knew me. Even though being the only Malay surrounded my Indian family, I never felt left out or out of place. Julie also felt the same way when spending time with my family.My family treated her the same way I was treated by hers.I then became close to Shan after Julie got married to Shekar in 1995.
Shanta, Julie and I were from the same college. We have known each other, for more than 20 years. I was 19 when I first met Julie. Until now, am still in touch with Julie and Shan. Anyah and Shan's father had passed away.Amma....how can I thanked her? I love her with all my heart and I missed her very dearly. Thinking about Shan and Julie just reminded me to my other best friends; Nandi, Albert, Ravinder, Leong, Ong, Kate Lan and Kimmy. Even though we are from different race and religion, it never stopped us from being best friends.
Shan, Julie and I then furthered our studies, did our degrees and master and now teaching in secondary schools. We all got paid from the government.
My point here...I didn't see any discriminations here, other than sharing the same peaceful country. What on earth were the Hindrafs thinking. What was all these street demonstration about ? Human rights ? There are millions of other people living in their own country with full of rights given to them. But what can the 'rights' do to them when they are homeless, jobless and begging for other people's money.
I love this country and so do Shan, Julie, Amma and my other friends. Our leaders had fought for our independence for more than a hundred years.Being independent for 50 years is not enough to replace that hardest time of our ancestors . We need to live this way for another 100 years for the sake of our children, grandchildren and great great grandchildren. I believed every Malaysian wants to see their children growing, getting education,working, getting married and have their own children.
To all Malaysians, being selfish is not doing any better to us. It took more than a 100 years to build a country but it will only take a second to destroy it. Once it's destroyed, it will take another 100 years to rebuild.Within that years what are we going to do....suffer just like the Iraqi and Afghanistani??? They have all the rights in their country but what is the point of having that rights when their country is under occupancy. Have we forgotten the bloody May 13th ? I was a year old when it happened but hearing and reading about the incident, I can see clearly how much this incident should not repeat.TRUST each other and we'll be independent for the next 50 years.

Monday, December 3, 2007

NURIN JAZLIN JAZIMIN dalam kenangan

Nurin Jazlin Jazimin.........our little angel. Menyebut namanya saja , hati saya menjadi sebak. Nurin ibarat anak kepada setiap orang yang bergelar ibu dan ayah. Pembunuhan ke atas Nurin menyentap jiwa saya.Cara bagaimana Nurin di bunuh sukar untuk diterima.

Saya peluk erat ketiga-tiga anak saya yang masih kecil. Saya dan ibu bapa yang lain masih boleh bersyukur kerana masih boleh memeluk anak masing-masing. Saya tidak dapat bayangkan perasaan ibu bapa Nurin.Dugaan seperti ini terlalu berat untuk sesiapa saja.

Apa yang mampu dilakukan hanyalah mengharap tidak ada lagi anak-anak yang menjadi mangsa kekejaman manusia berhati binatang. Paling dikesali dan ditakuti, manusia binatang ini masih bebas mencari mangsa seterusnya. Semoga Allah melindungi anak-anak saya dan anak-anak yang lain. Al-Fatihah untuk Nurin tersayang. Semoga anakanda bahagia disisiNya.



Tuesday, November 27, 2007

Kes Nurin paling dapat tumpuan - Merdeka Centre


KUALA LUMPUR: Kes pembunuhan Nurin Jazlin Jazimin, 8, yang mendapat liputan meluas media massa tempatan September lalu memberi kesan mendalam kepada masyarakat berbilang kaum negara ini.

Kaji selidik yang dijalankan firma penyelidikan, Merdeka Centre dengan kerjasama The New Straits Times Press (M) Berhad (NSTP) mendapat 43 peratus responden yang meletakkan kes membabitkan kanak-kanak itu pada kedudukan teratas.

Pengarah Merdeka Centre, Ibrahim Suffian, berkata walaupun selepas sebulan kes Nurin Jazlin berlalu, kejadian itu tetap mendapat tumpuan masyarakat apabila mencatat purata 95 peratus responden mengetahuinya.

"Kes itu (Nurin) juga mencatatkan kadar pecahan tinggi mengikut kaum iaitu masing-masing 99 peratus responden kaum India mengetahuinya, diikuti Melayu (97 peratus) dan Cina (92 peratus).

"Daripada responden yang ada, 47 peratus berpuas hati usaha polis menyelesaikan kes itu," katanya.

Isu lain yang turut mendapat perhatian umum adalah pendedahan Laporan Ketua Audit Negara (12 peratus), perbicaraan kes pembunuhan rakyat Mongolia, Altantuya Shaariibu (9 peratus) dan demonstrasi jalanan di Batu Burok (8 peratus).

Selain isu jenayah dan keselamatan awam, isu lain yang turut mendapat perhatian adalah masalah sosial, rasuah dan salah guna kuasa serta ekonomi.

Ibrahim berkata, 30 peratus responden berpendapat setiap anggota masyarakat bertanggungjawab menjamin keselamatan semua pihak, manakala 24 peratus lagi meletakkan tugas itu kepada polis dan pasukan keselamatan lain.

"Manakala 18 peratus responden menganggap kerajaan perlu dipertanggungjawabkan dalam hal keselamatan, manakala 15 peratus lagi berpendapat ibu bapa dan keluarga juga wajar memainkan peranan masing-masing," katanya.

Mengenai tugas yang dilaksanakan polis, sebanyak 58 peratus responden secara purata berpuas hati dengan polis iaitu 76 peratus bagi India dan Melayu (72 peratus).

Berkaitan klip video kes Lingam yang mengandungi perbualan telefon seorang peguam terkemuka dengan hakim kanan untuk mengatur pelantikan hakim di negara ini, secara purata responden sama ada di bandar atau luar bandar dan pecahan mengikut kaum, masing-masing memberi maklum balas seimbang.

Bagaimanapun, 50 peratus responden tidak mengetahui mengenai isu klip video itu, sekali gus dilihat tidak memberi kesan kepada undi mereka pada pilihan raya umum akan datang.

Selain itu, 51 peratus responden menganggap institusi kehakiman menjalankan tugas dengan dipengaruhi politik, manakala 23 peratus berpendapat badan kehakiman itu melaksanakan tugas dengan adil.

- Berita Harian